Feeling like I didn’t belong used to be one of my biggest struggles. It often left that familiar, bitter taste lingering quietly in the background of every day.
Sometimes, it made me feel like a “factory defect.” I thought there had to be something wrong with me if I couldn’t find a single place or a community where I truly wanted to put down roots. I often felt unfairly left out.
I didn’t like that feeling at all. And I liked myself even less when I felt it.
Today, I see it all differently. I’m genuinely grateful. Without that beautiful feeling of not belonging, I never would’ve discovered my unique vibration. I never would’ve had the courage to express my true self.
That feeling pushed me to explore parts of myself I probably never would’ve touched if I’d managed to fit in somewhere.
If I could send a message to my past self – especially to those moments when I believed something was fundamentally wrong with me because I didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere – I’d say this:
I know it’s hard. I know it hurts not knowing where you fit. But one day, you’ll see that your feeling of not belonging isn’t a flaw. It’s a calling. A calling to stop searching for validation outside yourself and start listening to the quiet voice within.
You don’t belong because you weren’t meant to belong. You came here to create something new. So instead of trying to fit in, dare to be exactly who you are. Your truth isn’t strange. It isn’t wrong. It’s just rare.
That feeling of not belonging – the one you once felt ashamed of – will become your greatest gift. Because it will help you protect what’s always been sacred within you: your sense of inner freedom.