Stuck in Love? Here’s a Quick Demonstration of the S.T.U.C.K. Coaching Model

Feeling stuck can be tough. It’s not just frustrating—it can feel deeply personal and emotional. When you’re in that place, you need more than quick advice. You need a way to uncover the root cause and find a clear path forward.

In this post, I’m sharing a short demonstration of the S.T.U.C.K. Coaching Model in action.This simple yet powerful five-step holistic framework—Sense the Block, Transform the Narrative, Unlock Inner Resources, Create a New Path, and Keep Evolving—helps people move beyond feeling stuck and reconnect with their inner strengths.

To show you how it works, I’ve included a sample 20-minute conversation between a coach and a client navigating her challenges in love. It’s an easy way to see the model in practice and understand how it can help create meaningful change.

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A Sample Chat:

NOTE: Phrases highlighted in bold red text represent key concepts closely tied to the S.T.U.C.K. Coaching Model.

Coach: Hi, it’s great to see you today. You mentioned feeling stuck in your love life. Can you share more about what’s been going on?

Client: Sure. I feel like I’m constantly meeting people who aren’t right for me, and it’s exhausting. I want a meaningful relationship, but it feels like I’m going in circles.

Coach: That sounds frustrating. Let’s work together to explore this and see what might be keeping you stuck. Sound good?

Client: Yes, I’d really like that.

S — Sense the Block (5 minutes)

Coach: Let’s start by identifying where this sense of being stuck comes from. What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing right now in your love life?

Client: I think it’s that I keep attracting people who don’t share my values or want the same things. It makes me question if I’m the problem.

Coach: That’s a big feeling to carry. Can you describe how being stuck in this area feels emotionally?

Client: It’s draining and disappointing. Sometimes I feel hopeless, like maybe I’m not meant to find someone.

Coach: Let’s pause for a moment and tune into your body. Close your eyes if you’re comfortable and take a deep breath. Where do you feel this sense of disappointment or hopelessness physically?

Client: I feel a tightness in my chest and a lump in my throat.

Coach: Thank you for noticing that. If those sensations could speak, what might they say?

Client: They’d say, “You’re trying so hard, but it’s not working.”

Coach: That’s an important message. What emotions come up when you hear that?

Client: I feel sadness and a little bit of anger—like, why is this so hard for me?

Coach: Those are valid emotions. Let’s acknowledge them without judgment. This awareness is the first step toward moving forward.

T — Transform the Narrative (6 minutes)

Coach: It sounds like there’s a belief behind those emotions—something like, “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll always be alone.” Does that resonate with you?

Client: Yes, I often feel like I’m not good enough or that I’m doing something wrong.

Coach: Let’s challenge that belief together. If this thought were a story you’ve been telling yourself, how true does it feel on a scale from 1 to 10?

Client: Maybe a 7. It feels true, but I know it’s not entirely accurate.

Coach: That’s a great insight. If you could rewrite this story, what would you want it to say instead?

Client: I’d want it to say that I am good enough and that I deserve a loving, supportive relationship.

Coach: Beautiful. Let’s re-frame it into an empowering intention: “I intend to be worthy of love and connection that aligns with my deepest values.” How does that feel?

Client: That feels really good—like a weight is being lifted.

Coach: Let’s take it a step further. Can you think of a time in your life when you felt deeply connected and worthy—maybe in another area of your life?

Client: Yes, in my friendships. I have amazing friends who value and respect me.

Coach: That’s wonderful. What do those friendships teach you about the kind of love you deserve in a romantic relationship?

Client: They show me that I deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and that I don’t have to settle.

U — Unlock Inner Resources (5 minutes)

Coach: Let’s build on that insight. What inner strengths have helped you cultivate those meaningful friendships?

Client: I think it’s my ability to communicate openly, my loyalty, and my willingness to invest time in people.

Coach: Those are powerful strengths. How might they also help you in your love life?

Client: Maybe I could use my communication skills to set clearer boundaries and express what I want upfront.

Coach: Absolutely. And what other resources—like skills, networks, or even your intuition—can you draw on to support you?

Client: I think my intuition is a big one. I’ve ignored red flags in the past, but I’m learning to trust myself more.

Coach: That’s such an important realization. Let’s tap into that intuition for a moment. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine your higher self guiding you. What advice does it give you about moving forward in your love life?

Client: It’s telling me to stop settling and to focus on becoming the best version of myself instead of chasing relationships.

Coach: That’s a beautiful message. Your higher self knows your worth and is guiding you to align with it.

C — Create a New Path (3 minutes)

Coach: Let’s translate this clarity into action. What’s one small, meaningful step you can take this week to align with your higher self’s guidance?

Client: I could start journaling about what I truly want in a partner and what I bring to a relationship.

Coach: That’s a great step. How will you ensure this process feels positive and empowering, not just reflective?

Client: I’ll make it a ritual—light a candle, play soft music, and focus on gratitude as I write.

Coach: I love that idea. What’s another step you could take to create alignment in your love life?

Client: I think I could set a boundary by taking a break from dating apps and focusing on building my confidence.

Coach: That’s fantastic. How will you stay accountable to these steps?

Client: I’ll schedule time for journaling in my calendar and check in with myself weekly.

K — Keep Evolving (4 minutes)

Coach: As you move forward, how can you maintain this momentum and stay connected to your worth?

Client: I think I’ll need to remind myself daily of my affirmations, like “I am worthy of love that aligns with my values.”

Coach: That’s a powerful practice. What else can you do to celebrate your progress and keep evolving?

Client: I could reflect on the positive changes I’m making and share them with a trusted friend for support.

Coach: Wonderful. Before we wrap up, what’s one thing you feel good about or appreciate in this process?

Client: I’m grateful for the clarity I’ve gained and for starting to believe in myself again.

Coach: That’s beautiful. Remember, feeling stuck is just a chapter—it’s not the whole story. /Note to the reader: This concept reflects one of the key principles of the S.T.U.C.K. Coaching Model./ You’re taking meaningful steps to rewrite your narrative, and I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s check in soon to celebrate your progress.

Client: Thank you so much. I already feel lighter and more hopeful.

To learn more about this powerful model and how it can transform your life, join the TT Coaching Program (Holistic Coach Certification Program), where you’ll not only experience firsthand the tools and guidance to shift from stuck to unstoppable but also learn how to guide your own clients through this transformative journey.