Empaths, have you ever found that your empathetic nature is a double-edged sword? Today, we will delve into an important topic of navigating “cries for help” from those in pain. Our empathic sensors immerse us in the world’s pain as if it were our own. However, responding to every “cry for help” can deplete our “daily cup of empathy, ” making us vulnerable to energy vampires that drain us and impede our personal growth.
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Today, I’ll discuss why it’s so important for empaths to be especially careful with the “cries for help” they hear from people in pain.
Empaths are equipped with inner sensors that enable them to quickly and automatically recognize the deep pain of another person. Not only can they easily recognize another person’s deep pain, but they sometimes even feel it as their own, making it difficult for them to distinguish it.
Empaths feel the world’s pain like a second skin. If you are an empath, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
However just because you can automatically recognize or feel another person’s deep pain doesn’t mean you’re invited and obligated to give that person your time and energy. The first is a fact and the second is just one of many possible interpretations. It’s important to distinguish between these two things.
In other words, you are not obliged to respond to every “cry for help” just because you can clearly notice it or feel it.
Of course, what I am saying may sound completely heartless at first glance, and in practice it’s not always black and white.
So let’s explore this very important topic a little deeper…
Transferring Personal Energy as an Empath
Firstly, the term “empath” completely misdescribes the people who fall into this category. Why? Because the key component of an empath’s “empathy” goes far beyond the classic understanding of empathy.
The empathy of people who are not empaths essentially boils down to understanding a person’s emotional state and adapting their own behavior accordingly. Actually, the classic definition of empathy is: “the ability to sense or understand the emotions of others and to respond appropriately.”
But with empaths, the story is quite different. Empaths tend not only to understand and respond appropriately but also to transfer a dose of their own personal energy to the person they empathize with. The deeper the pain someone is feeling, the more likely it is that an empath will transfer more of their own personal energy to the person.
Empaths tend not only to understand and respond appropriately but also to transfer a dose of their own personal energy to the person they empathize with. The deeper the pain someone is feeling, the more likely it is that an empath will transfer more of their own personal energy to the person.
This is why people feel comfortable in your presence when they’re feeling down and are somehow drawn to you in those moments because they receive not only understanding and an appropriate response but also a solid dose of your energy – which is very healing by nature. This is also one of the reasons why complete strangers sometimes feel the need to confide in you about their problems that they wouldn’t normally share with people they don’t know.
The Limited Resource of Empathy
But where does the problem actually lie, you may wonder? Why shouldn’t I help when I see an opportunity to do so? Right?
I fully understand this question, and I understand where it’s coming from. But the problem is that your daily amount of empathy, which you can transfer to others in a specific way that empaths tend to do, or as I like to call it, your “daily cup of empathy,” is a strictly limited resource. You can’t give it to everyone whose “cry for help” you hear.
Your daily amount of empathy, which you can transfer to others in a specific way that empaths tend to do, or as I like to call it, your “daily cup of empathy,” is a strictly limited resource. You can’t give it to everyone whose “cry for help” you hear.
I know you feel an unlimited amount of empathy in your heart. But please remember that there is a big difference between the energy you feel in your heart and the energy you can count on every day. Basically, we’re unlimited beings, aren’t we? But in this daily 3D reality, we feel our limits, don’t we?
As long as you blindly respond to every “cry for help” just because it makes you uncomfortable not to respond, it’s likely that you will soon surround yourself with parasitic types of people who will simply “suck” you dry” and steal your time. These are mainly drama kings/queens, full-time victims and other similar types of “energy vampires” who only use their dramatic story with countless sequels to divert your attention from their real goal.
And what is their real goal?
Their real goal is a specific aspect of your “empathic” energy, or more precisely, the “daily cup of empathy” you have at your disposal. And they can smell your naivety and immaturity before you even realize it. They pretend to care about you, but basically, they just want to “suck” as much energy as possible from your “daily cup of empathy.”
Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not being judgemental, and I’m not talking about people with bad intentions. I’m just talking about the energy dynamics in certain types of relationships. And that’s one reason why empaths who are still immature and unaware of their specific energy dynamics tend to attract different kinds of “energy vampires.”
Choose Your Battles and “Cries For Help” Wisely
There is a well-known saying that goes: “Choose your battles wisely.”
Why is it important to choose your battles wisely?
Because if you throw yourself into every battle that you recognize, feel drawn to, and have the opportunity to participate in, your whole life will likely turn into a complete drama without meaning or purpose. You will waste energy on things that are not part of your true life story and have no energy for what really matters to you. In other words, you won’t have enough energy for the battles that are important to you. And that’s why you have to choose your battles very wisely.
So, choose your battles wisely. And in relation to today’s basic idea, we could say in the same way and according to the same principle: “Choose wisely where and to whom you feel called to transfer your ‘daily cup of empathy.'” Because if you really respond to every “cry for help,” it’s like responding to every opportunity for a “battle.”
If you are an empath and don’t understand this energy dynamic and the difference between classic empathy and the “empathy” that empaths give, it’s likely that relationships, in general, are draining you a lot without you being able to say exactly what is draining you.
Nurturing and Cherishing Your Empathic Energy
In order to emphasize this difference as clearly as possible and to anchor it deeply in people’s minds, I deliberately use the phrase “daily cup of empathy” a lot in my programs for empaths, sometimes even more than necessary. Somehow, it seems to beautifully describe the nature of the phenomenon and remind them that their daily dose of empathy is limited. And resources that are limited are usually better cherished and nurtured.
To summarise, your “daily cup of empathy” that you have available to share with others is a resource that you possess as an empath. If you pass it on to the right people and in the right places, it will be a blessing to the world. However, as long as you allow those who are not meant to have it to regularly “steal” it from you, you will not only feel tired and drained, but you will also deprive them of their next step in personal development.
If you want to dive deeper into the phenomenon of ’empathy in empaths’ and learn practical methods and tools to protect and effectively manage your “daily cup of empathy,” visit my website, mysticpowerhub.com, and find more information about the EHSP Coach Program.
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